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Infatuation is when you idealize the other person to the extent that they take over your whole world.

Love happens when there is action. The feeling must be mutual. Our personal definitions of love are constructed out of feelings and thoughts that we learned in childhood. How we experience and express love is the result of our interactions with parents, family and friends.

There is a difference between loving someone and being in love with him or her. For instance, one does not love an object of desire quite the same way that they love their Mom or Dad. And they certainly don’t love another person the same way a fat kid loves pizza or Ryan Seacrest loves hair gel.

Being “in love with someone” is unique to every different soul on earth. Usually being in love means that you desire to be physically intimate with the person. Usually you experience elation or joy when you are with them and feel that you are somehow divinely connected. Sometimes it feels like fate or like you already have known the person in another life (that is if you believe in reincarnation!)

The following emotions are often experienced when an individual feels love for someone else: happiness, exhilaration, excitement and joy. It may also be accompanied by negative feelings such as nervousness, insecurity and anxiety. Some people even feel butterflies in their stomach, stutter in front of the other person or don’t feel very hungry when the potential mate is around.

The shadow side of love is that it can also bring up feelings of anger, frustration, jealousy and separation anxiety (which means that you can’t stand being without the individual.) These feelings however also often accompany infatuation. If you feel you must own or control another person, it is not love. True love gives the other individual his or her soul freedom.

In a strong relationships the good will outweigh the bad aspects most of the time. However, realize you are a teen, and often your relationships will develop negative aspects so that you can learn from them. This is part of your journey towards finding a true soul mate in life.

However, be careful about feeling entitled to being with a person as some stalkers and obsessed types have thought they were in love while they were pursuing their victims. Feeling too divinely connected or being fated to be with someone is not a healthy sign in you or others. It is important to remember that if another individual does not share the same feelings as you do that they are allowed to say “no” to a relationship. They are also allowed to change their mind during the course of relationship and leave it without penalty from you.

我從來沒有殺過任何活物,包括一只螳螂或是蝴蝶。可是，為了我的愛情，一等回到家，我揮刀就把雞頭斬了下來。雞血飈射一地，好像謀殺案的現場。我往一只碗裏注了冷水，再加了點白醋，然後把雞血控進去，拼命攪動。我從書上查到，這樣血液就不會凝固了。然後我到街上買了幾瓶眼藥水。先是開口剪得太小，血好不容易吸進去但又擠不出來，總之很不順暢。我想熄燈後，留給我操作的時間不會太長，我得速戰速決。後來我又把瓶口剪得太大了，瓶帽蓋不住了。費了半天勁兒才弄得合適了，血吸進去後，一滴不漏。需要的時候，可以很快噴湧而出。一切都計算好了，只是沒想到……

申拜雙臂交叉，緊緊抱住自己的肩膀，好像在狂風暴雨中。他冷笑道，你沒想到什麽？

我說，沒想到你有如此堅強的毅力，沒想到你那樣地珍愛我……

申拜說，珍愛？只可惜，那是以前了。你傷害了我，什麽就都不存在了。保存好你的秘密武器吧！

他說著，把這個眼藥瓶扔到我床上，揚長而去。

從那以後，我無論打他多少電話，他一概不接。我堵著他，不容易見到了他，也沒有一個眼神……我太痛苦了，生命已沒有價值……渠楓拼命撕扯著自己的頭發，沒有一點痛覺的模樣，那像那是一堆破魚網。

我看著愁雲慘淡的渠楓，再看看那個眼藥瓶。藥瓶如同一個殺了人的子彈殼，醜陋而污穢。我說，渠楓，你很後悔，你想挽回，你不知從何做起？對不對？

渠楓說，是啊，是啊。快教我怎樣辦。

我說，你先告訴我，你最傷了申拜心的是什麽？

渠楓說，他嫌我不再是處女。

我說，如果真是這個原因，此事已無可挽回。即便你做了修補手術，不似這次露餡，但他已心冷如鐵，你無法修補他的記憶。

渠楓想想，又說，他嫌我欺騙他。

我說，一個不誠實的人，確實人見人怕。你怎樣才能讓申拜認為你從此痛改前非，開始真誠？

渠楓說，我找到他，把我的苦心和懺悔告知他。如果他能原諒我，我就和他重新開始。如果他不能原諒我，我也只好認命了。但是，以後，我若再交了男朋友，該如何解釋自己不是處女？

我說，交友的雙方，都可以保留的隱私，這無可厚非。只是你機關算盡，導演了一場鬧劇，你企圖僞造一個現實，這就是欺騙了。戀人之間，謊言注定會殺傷幸福。渠楓，你已經付出了兩次慘痛的代價，但是你還沒有得到代價之後的思索。真正的愛情必定是真誠基礎上的建築。

眼藥瓶的奧秘（上）

眼藥瓶的奧秘（中）

渠楓來見我的時候,披頭散發,衣帽邋遢。對一個容顔娟秀的女孩子來說，糟蹋自己到了這種地步，可見她遇到了重大的困厄，心灰意懶，已經抛棄自愛，不再珍重。

她一屁股坐下來，從內兜深處掏出一件東西，握在手心，對我說，都是它把我毀了！

我以為那會是一枚珠寶首飾或是一個信物，要麽乾脆是一封絕交信，沒想到在渠楓蒼白的緩緩展開的手掌心裏，是一只普通的塑膠的小眼藥瓶。到街上的藥店，一塊錢可以買回三只。

我細細地觀察著這只藥瓶。奇怪它有何魔力，竟能把一個青春年華的女大學生，折磨得如此憔悴？

藥瓶基本上是空的，它的底部，有一些暗紅色的渣滓沉澱著，好像是油漆的碎片。並頸部的封堵已被剪開。之所以特別提到了這一點，是它被剪開的位置，反常地偏下。一般人怕藥水大量滴出，瓶尖部的口通常開得很小。但這只眼藥瓶，幾乎是從瓶肩部被斷開了，瓶頸縮得短短，僅夠套上瓶帽。

我看著渠楓。渠楓也看著我。很久很久，沉默如同黑色的幕布，遮擋著我們，終於，渠楓說，你為什麽不問我？

我說，我在等你。

渠楓說，等我什麽？

我說，你來找我，就是信任我。我等著你把你想要對我說的話，說出來。

渠楓又繼續黨沉默。當我幾乎不寄希望的時候，她突然說，好吧，我就把一切都告訴你。我愛上了申拜，一個並不高大但是很有內涵的男生。有同學說，依你的條件，可以找一個比申拜外形更酷的男孩，申拜矮了些，要知道，身高就是男人的性感喔！我說，我看重的是申拜的內在。注重男子的身高，是農耕社會和遊牧民的習氣了，機械欠發達的時候，男人的力氣就是他的資本，比如扛麻包挑擔子什麽的，當然是大個子占便宜。如今到了電子時代，經營決策，敲擊電腦，都和身高無關。一個男人能不能給女人幸福，不在身高，在乎內裏的質量。

朋友被我駁得兩眼如同死魚，幹張著嘴，無話可說。申拜知道了我的觀點，對我更是呵護體貼入微。他說，我是他交的第一個女朋友，我說，你也是我的……。我們的感情很快進展到如膠似漆。一天，我約他到我家玩，父母正好同到外地出差。夜深了，他抱著我說，他忍不住了，想徹底全面得到我。我急忙推開他的手，說，不……不能……

我看他退開，情緒很傷感，覺得我對他不信任。就急忙安慰他說，不是我不願意，是我還沒做好準備。下次吧，好嗎？

 眼藥瓶的奧秘（中）

眼藥瓶的奧秘（下）